“Criticism is something we can avoid easily by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.”
SCOTUS ruled in favor of same sex marriage. If this was a surprise to you, you weren't paying attention. The response is fairly predictable. Those in support of same sex marriage view this as a huge victory and those oppose see this as a betrayal of tradition, natural law, and fear the limiting of a person's exercise of religion. There is another response that should be considered. It is compassion for those who seem to think that this ruling by 5 judges offers legitimacy to their relationship.
I have argued that marriage is something determined by natural law and cannot be redefined because it is metaphysically unique. Of course, this debate has never been about discovering truth. It has always been about something else. That something isn't hospital visits or legal issues. That something is the legitimizing of a certain kind of relationship by the culture at large. Those who are in favor of same sex marriage are generally concerned with how their relationship is viewed and they only use arguments related to hospital visits and so on when they are in some kind of debate and need some ammo (so to speak).
I am not upset by the ruling, I figured it was only a matter of time. Instead, I feel compassion towards people who seem to think that these 5 judges or even culture at large are the ones who must give credence to their relationship. If you are a person who is gay, let me put this as simply as I know how. Relationships are legitimate or illegitimate based on their own merits. This is a hard truth to face and it may not feel good to read such a thing. Yet, nature and nature's God will not budge. I am sorry if the ruling by SCOTUS is offering you some kind of false assurance. Same sex marriage is a contradiction in terms and nature is the iron clad witness to this truth.
While this truth may be hard, it is also true that same sex attraction does not define a person or determine their value. It is the creator who determines such things and the creator has determined that every person's value is worth great sacrifice. That sacrifice and love was most clearly and blatantly expressed when Jesus willingly gave his life by being nailed to the cross.
Perhaps this truth is not so comforting as it may not relieve the immediate struggle, but it does offer hope for a time when there will be no more struggle. This is true for every person and every kind of struggle, not just homosexuality.
John Byrne is a pastor who has been spouting off his opinions his entire life (just ask his mom). This little blog is his venue for continuing in this tradition.