“Criticism is something we can avoid easily by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.”
Call me anything you want, but this is a tradition that should not go away. To be clear, no one has asked for my daughters hand in marriage as I sit and write this. That said, she has a serious boyfriend and that has caused me to think about this issue a little more. What will I tell my son when he comes to me and says, "Dad, this is the one, how should I approach her dad?"
While there may be exceptions, it is imperative for a man to talk to the father of his girlfriend and seek his blessing before getting engaged. This shows respect to the man who will become the father-in-law and likely still has a huge influence on the wife to be. If harmony and peace with the in-laws is something you desire, talk to the father-in-law to be. Here is my advice:
Enjoy these moments with all the anticipation and stress that comes with it. Don't be freaked out. The dad might say some hard things and he may not respond appropriately to some things. If that happens extend grace to him, you are asking to take the second most important woman in his life and marry her.
John Byrne is a pastor who has been spouting off his opinions his entire life (just ask his mom). This little blog is his venue for continuing in this tradition.